What is Normal?

I haven’t written a post in a while and thought about which topic to start with first. But I’m thinking an update on all the good things that have happened over the past several months is deserved. Life has been pretty good, busy and somewhat “normal”. But what is normal in the life of a family overcoming autism?

Well, for starters, both my sons are growing like weeds. I can’t keep enough food in the house, let alone in their stomachs.  My preteen son eats more than both my husband and I combined. His shoe size is a men’s 10 and is already 5’6″ at age 12.  I think I’m actually spending more money on groceries and his shoes each month than vitamin supplements. And that’s a lot!

My younger son with autism went through 35 treatments (dives) of hyperbaric oxygen therapy (HBOT) this past summer. It was tough to keep up the treatments at a facility that was an hour drive away from home (each way). We saw immediate gains after the first 10-15 dives. His expressive language was soaring and his eye contact rocked! We slowly saw improvements come gradually during the remaining dives. His gut was improving and bacteria died off.  Focus, attention and eagerness to have friends come over for play dates all improved. We continue to see steady improvement each month. It’s very gradual and he just seems to do better and better each week. HBOT stimulates the growth of new blood vessels and increases blood vessel diameter which improves circulation to damaged organs (his brain). This process continues for up to six months once treatment is stopped.
I am proud to announce that both of my boys are now first degree black belts in Taekwondo! It is such a huge accomplishment for them, especially for my son with autism. He had to learn to focus, stay at attention, do numerous kicks, blocks, punches and all eight Taekwondo forms. Each form has 18 steps in them which must be done in sequence. He also had to break boards with punches/kicks five times during testing. Not an easy thing for a child that started classes three years ago, with lack of attention, focus and just plain disobedience to his Taekwondo Master. He also feared board breaking, mostly due to the sound it made. He is doing awesome in class now and a lot of the parents keep telling me what a different boy he is today, verses when he began. I could tell they wanted to say that he seemed “normal” now, but held back because that would be an odd thing to say.

So what is normal in the life of a family overcoming autism? My boys argue over inane matters, are competitive with each other, vie for their parents attention, go to school, do homework, have friends and have overcome a lot in the past four years. Our normal may be a lot different from other families. Autism will forever touch our lives. We deal with it each and every day. Some days we see it more than others…sometimes not at all.

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